I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW!!!: The stress of a break up

Well its been *looks at calendar* almost three months and a couple days since I made love to my blog, so Im writing.  A lot of things has happened since my last post.  I quit nursing school for personal reasons and now want to get my Masters and become a science teacher. I was supposed to get an apartment but it didn't come through.Last but not least....my boyfriend broke up with me. Yeah but I got over it.During a breakup emotion can cause stress, stress can cause lupus flares and honey, nobody wants that.  From my experience there are certain ways to prevent heartache.  Of course there is always a mourning period, however, keep moving forward, you have other things to worry about such as.....your illness maybe.

Here are some tips:

1) Cry
Don't hold in your emotions. Crying is a stress reliever. When we are stressed our body is filled with chemicals that affect our mood and feelings. After a good cry our body releases those chemicals through tears and we become more relaxed. Emotional cry releases many protein-based hormones - leucine enkephalin (a natural painkiller) , prolactin and adrenocorticotropic hormone - that reduce our stress.  Not to mention you will have a clear mind after....just don't think about the person again....then you will start crying again and you will be back at square one.

2)Talk
Hey hey hey!!!! Put down that phone don't you dare call your ex! I mean talk to somone that you can confide in and will listen to you.  This is the period when you are most vulnerable.  Calling your ex will just worsen the problem unless you really feel things could work out between the two of you.  There is nothing wrong with giving love a second try unless insecurities start kicking in.  In that case you have to communicate to your partner.

3) Avoiding Junk and Sugary Foods & Consuming MineralsThis is my issue....Junk food.  I eat junk that I hardly ever eat.  Pork rinds, chocolate, chips soda etc.  If you feel stressed or in case you are prone to it, avoid sugary and junk fast foods by exercising or starting an invigorating co-curricular activity such as tennis playing. Make sure you drink plenty of fluids and wear a hat if you do
In order to help our body relax you have to consume enough minerals such as vitamin C and Calcium that can help deal with stress levels. Vitamin C can make one to feel really rejuvenated and invigorated while calcium aids in muscle relaxation.

4) Humor
This saved me through a lot of heartache.  I am a humorous person in general but after a break up it feels so good.  Laughter is a good stress relief technique that works. You probably know how good it feels when you are laughing at a friends joke, funny comedy or a stand up show. With laughter we stretch the tense muscles on our face and release the tension out of out body. We also allow more blood to flow to the pleasure centers of the brain that make us happier. Funny stress relief is a sure winner when we want to reduce stress fast.
Make fun of your ex's snoring, or make fun of the way he talks.  Go out with your friends and just have a blast! Go to or watch a comdey show.  Whatever it is that can make you laugh do it.

5) Masturbation
Yeah, yeah I know some of you are giving me the side eye, but masturbation can relieve a lot of stress.  This might also prevent you from having relations with your ex.  Masturbation releases the same neurochemicals as laughing which are called endorphins, your natural high. 

6) Meditation, Yoga and controlled breathingWoooo-sahhhhhh.  As you probably already know, yoga is an excellent stress relief method. Thanks to practicing yoga, both moving and stationary poses combined with deep breathing are performed. Yoga gives you many advantages. It provides you with physical and mental relaxation and contributes to balanced stress level. Yoga also makes your relaxation response stronger.
Breathe in through your nose slowly and deeply then out through your mouth. When you blow the air out of your lungs you will feel how the tension will flow out of the body. By controlled breathing we provide the body with the right amount of oxygen and normalize our hear beat.

This advice is for anyone at anytime stress is taking over there lives.  If it becomes too much to handle and you have thoughts of harming yourself or others please seek medical attention.  We are all in this together.
Love y'all!!


Source: http://www.mystressmanagement.net/stress-relief-techniques.html